The Ghosts of Girlfriends Past II
An inside glimpse of three mysterious women from the past. Revealing how it went down & what was learned.
Inspired by Robert Greene’s Best Seller “The Art of Seduction.”
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The Story of The Greener
The Greener is an eccentric girl. A beautiful flower with hidden thorns. She’s pretty, witty, and a tad bit naive. The one you would call “green” in regards to experience. The Greener is naturally a nurturer; supportive and attentive. These traits explain her peculiar infatuation with plants and animals. The Greener was a southern girl with the facial structure of a Hollywood actress. Her flower stripe was Middlemist Red, but bashfully, she saw herself as more of a common sun flower. Figuratively, The Greener and I met rather organically. Social media was the soil; we exchanged follows and then planted a few ‘likes’ that blossomed into direct messages. I was initially attracted to The Greener for her artistic properties, but subsequently discovered that she was a woman of many talents. I learned that she uprooted herself from native lands with a dream of surviving off the fruits her own labor. I respected her grit and enjoyed her creativity. I relished the opportunity to be a “fan” of another. What I also liked about The Greener is that she was a reader. What do ya know? A writer’s dream. She took a keen interest in my work and often times gave persuasive critiques on how to make it better. I admired her comfort and confidence in the world of words. It quickly stirred up clever banter between us. The type of arousing exchanges that leads to the carnal chapter in a romance novel. Like the sun rising, The Greener was consistent. Even when I was away she would greet me with morning messages and “just because” picture mail. I was often isolated because of work and navigating my way out of a dark place emotionally. The Greener’s interest in me was a source of light. At times, we felt like modern day pen pals with a twist. The anticipation leading up to our next rendezvous is what kept it all going. Months passed and every interaction seemed to pollinate the idea of a beautiful garden surrounded by picket fence. It wasn’t until expectations were heightened that things began to unravel.
Too many times The Greener would break her word to those that were absent because of the inability to say “No” to those who were present. The impediment of a nurturer is becoming a chronic people pleaser. Thus, our trust took a gust. I accepted the blow but you reap what you sow. I continued to believe in The Greener because she possessed an intriguing potential. Most of which was hidden away from the light of day. Lost in the right direction. The irony of The Greener is that she’s stuck in the mud, seemingly afraid to bloom, petrified by prosperity. I could never decipher whether is was success or failure that immobilized her most, but I am certain that my lack of patience didn’t accelerate the germination process one bit. In fact, it did quite the opposite. Too frequently, I rushed The Greener to take leaps of courage before she was ripe. I was overly determined to rid her follicles of whatever was stunting her growth. Yes, The Greener was ardent about finding feeble seeds and nurturing them up into a Major Oaks, but contrarily, she loathed the idea of becoming a project herself. I urgently encouraged her to fight for the shine of the sun, but The Greener dug in her roots and retracted her leaves like an African Daisy. When our greenhouse met the cold shoulder there seemed to be a lot less in common. In life and relationships, people either grow together or grow apart. Our seasons changed, The Greener migrated, and our connection withered away…
Letter to The Greener
Lessons from The Greener
What I learned from The Greener is that people grow when they’re ready. You can’t want for someone else more than they want for themselves. Whether it’s for goals or fears, for better or for worse, pushing people towards the unknown too rapidly will only motivate them to resent you. It comes off smug and judgmental, and puts people on the defense. The old adage is true, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. Forcing a big gulp might drown the one you love. Be encouraging but remember, people seek acceptance before improvement.
What I learned from The Greener is that Talent is a form of Beauty. A person with rare gifts can seem larger than life. They possess an ability to captivate others through authentic self-expression. You see, talent is a blessing so powerful that it can summon adoration and worship from total strangers. The Greener’s form spoke to the heart and imagination of many onlookers. Now picture Me: flower in hand, nose wide open, inhaling the aura. Talent is intoxicating and it’s difficult to walk away from. If you find someone with talent, get buzzed and stay for a while.
What I learned from The Greener is the Power of Anticipation. The Greener and I were usually uncertain of when we would meet again. Strangely enough, something about the uncertainty heightened the attraction. The anticipation simultaneously piqued emotional and intellectual interests. I believe a little time apart is necessary in relationships and should be inserted gracefully. It’s proven that love, lust, and anticipation all go hand-in-hand. Maintain a steady pace of space and in due time you’ll reach promise land.
What is it about waiting for food that makes the meal much more delicious? The Greener was nutritious, but a hunter could never survive at the pace of a vegetarian.
I do hope that you understand; I’m just a student with a message.
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